Reset Your Reminder

Life has a way of making even the clearest goals feel blurry, especially when the loneliness of singleness creeps in or the weight of partnership becomes heavy.

Sometimes, we need to reset our reminder—not just on our phones, but in our hearts.

Resetting your reminder means coming back to your values when the journey gets tough.

Whether you’re building a new relationship or navigating a blended family, it’s easy to lose sight of what we’re working toward when emotions get loud and healing feels far.

It also means, remembering that submission in love isn’t about control—it’s about trust, mutual respect, and choosing peace over pride.

I learned that the hard way. In my first marriage, I couldn’t submit—not because I didn’t want to—but because I didn’t know how to respect someone who didn’t feel safe to me. I wasn’t in a place to surrender to a vision I didn’t believe in.

Still, that chapter taught me something valuable.

Submission and respect are not weaknesses—they’re strengths that require self-awareness, healing, and maturity.

And for many of us, that begins with acknowledging childhood trauma.

We can’t expect healthy love if we haven’t taken the time to build a healthy relationship with ourselves. Otherwise, we fall into the cycle of love bombing and calling it “meant to be,” when in truth, it’s pain looking for a way out.

So today, reset your reminder. Keep your goals in focus. Whether you’re waiting on love or learning how to grow inside of it, remember: real love requires real work, and it starts within.